Hold Up, Wait a Minute…

No one ever said that going through a divorce or child custody battle was going to be easy. In fact, it's likely one of the hardest things you'll ever have to go through. And if you're currently in the midst of a family court matter, you probably know just how true that is.

Dealing with the legal system can be frustrating, time-consuming, and exhausting. It's easy to lose sight of the big picture when you're bogged down in the details. But it's important to remember that good things come to those who wait. Patience is a virtue for a reason, and that's especially true when it comes to dealing with a family court matter.

If there's one thing you need to know about the legal system, it's that it moves slow. Very slow. So slow, in fact, that it can often feel like it's not moving at all. And when you're in the midst of a divorce or child custody battle, that feeling can be even stronger. Trust me when I say that I know how difficult it is to be patient when you feel like your life is on hold. I have several of my clients who are experiencing this right now. But the truth is, rushing through the legal process is only going to make things worse.

We know it's hard to believe, but good things really do come to those who wait—especially when it comes to family law matters. Rushing through the process will only lead to mistakes being made and important details being overlooked. If you want what's best for your case, then you need to be patient and let things play out as they're supposed to.

Every single detail matters in my cases—no matter how small it may seem at the time. That's why patience is so important; rushing through things can cause important details to be missed, which could potentially have a negative impact on your case later down the road.

No one ever said that going through this was going to be easy. If you have been my client, you know that I always say “it gets bitter before it gets better”—but that doesn't mean it's impossible. Dealing with the legal system can be frustrating, but it's important to remember that good things come to those who wait. Patience really is a virtue when it comes to these types of cases, so try your best to remain calm and let things play out as they're supposed to.

Take care,

Lakisha.

Ladies...I'm talking to you...

Earlier this week I did a quick post on how being single can be sexy. This week

I've had a lot of interaction with my divorce clients and there was so much

heaviness around starting over. I just feel like I need to bring a little levity to the discussion. Trust me, I don't take divorce lightly, but there is always a silver

lining....

Let's face it, being single can be tough. You're constantly bombarded with

images of happy couples in love, and it can be hard to feel sexy when you're

flying solo. But believe it or not, there are some upsides to being single. In fact,

being single can be downright sexy! Here's why:

You're Free to Do You

One of the best things about being single is that you're free to do whatever you

want, without having to answer to anyone else. If you want to stay in bed all day and binge-watch Netflix, you can do that! If you want to go out on a spontaneous road trip, you can do that, too. When you're single, you don't have to worry about what someone else wants or needs – you can just focus on yourself. And that can be pretty empowering.

You Can Be More Spontaneous

If there's one thing that most people crave, it's spontaneity. And when you're

single, spontaneity is your middle name! Since you don't have to check in with

anyone or make sure that your plans align with someone else's schedule, you

can pretty much do whatever you want, whenever you want. That means more

impromptu trips, spur-of-the-moment get-togethers with friends, and overall a lot less planning and a lot more living in the moment. And who doesn't love that?

You Get Me Time...a Lot of Me Time

Whether we like it or not, we all need some time alone every now and then. And when you're single, me time is basically built into your schedule. Whether it's taking a long bath, reading your favorite book cover to cover, or just taking a leisurely stroll through the park by yourself, alone time is an important part of self-care – and when you're single, you've got plenty of it! If you have children, hopefully you have a good parenting plan in place so that you get some time to yourself. If you don't, make sure you give me a call.

So there you have it. Who knows, maybe being single is exactly what you need

right now. Embrace your independence and enjoy all the perks that come along

with it!

Take care,

Lakisha.

Watch Your Mouth!...

Teach Your Children They are Worthy In a world that is constantly telling children they are not enough, it is more important than ever to instill in them a sense of worthiness. Whether it be through the media, school, or even peers, children are faced with messages that tell them they need to be thinner, faster, stronger, smarter, and more successful in order to be valued. Negative self-talk can quickly become a self-fulfilling prophecy, leading children down a path of low self-esteem and poor self-image. One of the best things you can do as a parent is teach your children they are valued. This doesn’t mean you have to tell them they are the best at everything they do—in fact, it’s important to point out their flaws and shortcomings as well. What it does mean is that you should make an effort to listen to them, really hear what they are saying, and let them know that their thoughts and opinions matter. Just as importantly, avoid making comments that tear them down or make them feel less than worthy. While you don’t want to put pressure on your child to be perfect, you should encourage them to be their best selves. Help them set realistic goals and then give them the tools and resources they need to reach those goals. Encourage healthy habits such as eating right and exercising regularly. And most importantly, praise their efforts—even when they don’t succeed. It’s not about winning or losing; it’s about doing your best and learning from your mistakes. Children who feel good about themselves are more likely to treat others with kindness and compassion. Teach your children about the importance of helping others, whether it be through volunteering, donating money or goods to those in need, or simply treating everyone with respect—even if they don’t deserve it. The more compassionate your children are towards others, the more likely they will be to have fulfilling relationships throughout their lives. The world can be a harsh place for children—especially when it comes to messages about self-worth. It is therefore essential that we as parents take the time to instill in our children a sense of worthiness. By teaching them they are valued, encouraging them to be their best selves, and teaching them compassion for others, we can help our children develop into happy, healthy adults who love and accept themselves just as they are. We also have to remember that children watch what we do more than they listen to what we say. Make sure you show up in a way that allows them to be their best selves.

Take care,

Lakisha.