Grieving: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
At this time of the year as the leaves are falling and the season is changing, I always feel a slight sense of loss and a little sadness. Fall has always reminded me of having to go back to school and leave the comfort of my home. I have come to realize that this is a form of grief that is pretty normal.
Grieving is a process that is as unique as the individual experiencing it. There is no one right or wrong way to grieve, and often, the process looks different for each person. Some may find themselves withdrawing from social activities and others may seek out support groups. Some may cry often while others may feel numb. There is no one way to grieve, and that is okay.
The Good One of the good things about grief is that it is a natural process that allows us to come to terms with our loss. Grief can be a powerful motivator for change and growth. It can help us to appreciate life more fully and can motivate us to make positive changes in our lives.
The overall experience of grief does not have to be bad. We can experience grief and gratitude at the same time. Parents, think about how it feels when you have to drop your children off at daycare for the first time or drop them off at college. While we celebrate the milestones, we grieve the loss of our children’s tender years.
The Bad Grief can also be a very painful experience. It can be overwhelming and confusing. Grief can cause physical symptoms such as fatigue, headaches, and upset stomach. It can lead to sleep problems, anxiety, and depression.
The Ugly Grief can sometimes lead us to do things that we would not normally do. We may say things that we later regret or behave in ways that are out of character for us. This is because when we are grieving, we are not thinking clearly. We may make impulsive decisions or lash out at those around us.
Oftentimes, when my clients are going through a divorce, they experience various levels of grief. This often manifests itself in heated arguments and rash decisions that they may regret later. Therefore, I strongly advise my clients to seek as much therapeutic support as they can when going through this process.